This is something I get asked quite a bit about and below is a useful ‘worksheet’ of tips to help you. I can’t remember whence it came in order to credit it properly, but it’s something I’ve used effectively for years. There IS work that can be done for anger management; this is a good place to begin.<\/p>\n
Tips<\/strong><\/p>\n 1. Breathe deeply from your diaphragm.<\/p>\n 2. Visualize a relaxing calm experience or place from your memory or imagination.<\/p>\n 3. Repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself such as “slow down’ ‘relax’ ‘keep cool’. Keep repeating the words whilst breathing deeply from your diaphragm.<\/p>\n 4. Listen to some relaxing music.<\/p>\n 5. Try non strenuous exercises such as walking, yoga or even dancing.<\/p>\n 6. Recognize if the person you are really angry with is you<\/em>. Try to be less critical of yourself as this will continually sabotage any progress. Learning tolerance starts with yourself.<\/p>\n 7. Use humour to ‘lighten up’ but don’t be sarcastic (sarcasm is another less obvious expression of anger).<\/p>\n 8.When in conflict with others, try using I statements instead of you statements. An example is; ‘I feel angry\/sad\/upset’ rather than ‘You make me feel…..’. Taking ownership of what you feel is a crucial step in learning to manage your anger.<\/p>\n 9. Practice forgiveness and letting go of your sense of injustice so that you do not get eaten up inside with bitterness. The world is not always a fair place and to have expectations that it always will be, will cause you to continually suffer disappointment.<\/p>\n 10. Know when to seek help from a professional who specializes in anger management. If your anger is causing difficulties in your relationships or at work, now is the right time to seek help.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" This is something I get asked quite a bit about and below is a useful ‘worksheet’ of tips to help you. I can’t remember whence it came in order to credit it properly, but it’s something I’ve used effectively for … Continue reading